I have two daughters (4 and 1). The first was a slightly rough sleeper, but after about 18 months things smoothed out. The second: an actual hellscape shit show dumpster fire nightmare of a sleeper. I mean, this is the stuff that horror movies are made of. The impact this has had on me and also my family has been enough to make my partner say “fuck no” to another baby. I am almost there, but I just really feel so much grief over making that decision, especially right now when we are in the pits of hell. I know this isn’t forever, even though I truly don’t know how I’d do this again. My question is, if you had a terrible sleeper, did it deter you from having or wanting another? Did you ever change your mind once you came out of it? And was your next baby, if you had one, a better or worse sleeper (I know there’s no way to predict this)?
ETA: this is our primary reason for not having another baby.