AITAH for cutting my brother out of my life for ignoring me a whole night?
I am 24 M. My half brother is 33 M. We’ve had a sort of strained ish relationship most of our lives due to him moving out early when i was 7-8 and going to live with his dad. We didn’t keep much contact until i was 20.
The past 4 years we’ve planned to attend at least one party together. Every time he had some reason that he couldn’t make it. Which is fair, I don’t want to force anyone. The problem is that around November last year we finally had aligning schedules and could go the same rave.
I get there early with my boyfriend and we dance a bit until my brother walks in with his friend group. I meet him, give him a hug, only for him to say that he’ll put up his coat and come see us.
My boyfriend had to go home at one point because he had exams on Monday so i agreed beforehand with my brother that we’d spend the last 3 hours of the party together with his friend group. I even asked him specifically if he was fine with it and he said yes.
I send him a message, nothing. 1 hour passes, nothing. 2 hours pass, nothing. I call him over 10 times and he doesn’t answer whatsoever. I go home after spending the last 3 hours by myself. If that was just it i would have let it go and said maybe he lost track of time.
Even after 3 weeks he hasn’t replied anything in our chat or to my calls. He knows he bailed on me during the party on purpose and refused to apologise or send ANYTHING that acknowledges what he did. It genuinely felt like he just didn’t like me as a person or because I’m gay and he’s uncomfortable for some reason or embarrassed by me and doesn’t want his friends to see me.
He recently invited me through my mom to his graduation but i denied and said that I don’t feel like showing up for his thing when he couldn’t even be bothered to reply after 3 weeks after bailing on me and leaving me alone.
I know it sounds petty but the fact that he saw my messages and calls, refused to tell me anything and then ignored me afterwards JUST to invite me to his graduation ceremony? I already decided I’m not going and want 0 contact with him in the future.
AITAH?