u/Capital_Quarter1563

I used to post frequently but went through a bad self-image episode and havent posted anything but birthday stories on snap for my friends in two years 😭

I really want to be more digitally active but its so awkward to make a first post...

my main three socials are snap, tiktok and Instagram. I want to post small daily fun things on snap, funny/niche videos on tiktok and aesthetic/monthly photo dumps on insta, but i feel so corny and annoying trying to make myself "look pretty".

I also have a bunch of people who im not close to and am high-key scared of cause i know theyre really judgmental...

as a girl who grew up not knowing "how to be a girl", can someone give me some tips?

for context, im a teenage girl!

My family is apart of a really tightly knit community of other families and a lot of us would meet up often before covid!!

all the kids are basically family friends and knew eachother since birth.

but nowadays, I only get to see most of them like twice during every breaks...

it also doesnt help that me and my parents are both huge introverts.

as a girl myself, i find it natural and really easy to keep in touch with my girl friends, but I have a few guy friends that im worried about.

I always relied on our parents wanting to hang out to hang out with them myself since im kind of shy, but I havent seen them in so long and am worried that we'll grow apart too much once they graduate.

Ive never actually directly texted and said anything like "lets hang out!", so I dont really want it to seem like a suspiciously abrupt interest in them, cause its really not like that.

we also dont have anything in common in terms of schedules. Different school, different sports, etc.

when we hang out, everything's great, but its the fact that we dont interact at all unless its by our parents that gets me kind of concerned...

I want to be able to text them freely, ask to hang out and stuff now so that when we're older, we'll still keep in touch!

for context, im a teenage girl!

My family is apart of a really tightly knit community of other families and a lot of us would meet up often before covid!!

all the kids are basically family friends and knew eachother since birth.

but nowadays, I only get to see most of them like twice during every breaks...

it also doesnt help that me and my parents are both huge introverts.

as a girl myself, i find it natural and really easy to keep in touch with my girl friends, but I have a few guy friends that im worried about.

I always relied on our parents wanting to hang out to hang out with them myself since im kind of shy, but I havent seen them in so long and am worried that we'll grow apart too much once they graduate.

Ive never actually directly texted and said anything like "lets hang out!", so I dont really want it to seem like a suspiciously abrupt interest in them, cause its really not like that.

we also dont have anything in common in terms of schedules. Different school, different sports, etc.

when we hang out, everything's great, but its the fact that we dont interact at all unless its by our parents that gets me kind of concerned...

I want to be able to text them freely, ask to hang out and stuff now so that when we're older, we'll still keep in touch!

How do you get closer to a family friend of the opposite gender that you dont see as often anymore?

My family is apart of a really tightly knit community of other families and a lot of us would meet up often before covid!!

but nowadays, I only get to see most of them like twice during every breaks...

it also doesnt help that my parents are both huge introverts as well 🥲

as a girl myself, i find it natural and really easy to keep in touch with my girl friends, but I have a few guy friends that im worried about.

specifically, this one guy friend ive had some tension with in the past.

for context, we both used to like eachother as kids for a few years.. you know, the classic "lets get married when we're older!" typpa thing.

as we grew up, we stopped talking about it and the tension faded until we were just friends!

I always relied on our parents wanting to hang out to hang out with him myself, but I havent seen him in 2 months now and Ive been wondering how to progress our friendship without relying on my parents!

Ive never actually directly texted and said anything like "lets hang out!", let alone even text him unless im asking a question.

(Even with my girl besties, ive always been really introverted and rarely reached out first, but ive been trying to be more out there in general!)

we also dont have anything in common in terms of schedules. Different school, different sports, etc.

another kind of problem is that recently, I started developing feelings for him again..

I dont think im ready for a relationship yet (and im not too interested in dating right now!) and am too scared of ruining a friendship to make advances, so I want to enjoy this as a cute teenage love experience to recall and smile about.

I want to be closer with him because even just hanging out as friends makes me happier than I could imagine to be!

another reason im looking to be close with him is to be close enough now so that it wont be weird when in the future and im ready for a relationship, I can actually try pushing things the right way?

how can I recover our friendship without making it seem like im making too big of an "advance"?

sorry its so long, but thanks for reading!

another note!

I feel like im "too nice" to be fun to hang out with... like I cant do any form of physical touches, banters feel fake and theres no playful teasing anywhere.

Some of my friends are able to do this so naturally to the guy friend i was talking about, and I want to be able to do that as well... he didnt seem interested in any other of our childhood friend gang like that though.

Hes uncharacteristically nice to me because im nice to.. well everyone not just him, but it creates a sort of awkward atmosphere. I want the same casual "sibling dynamic" that I see so much of in media, but I dont think I can pull it off.. im too weak hearted I guess 😭)