Mad, when someone relies on you
I get so mad when a person relies too much on me. Gives me fully the lead and leans back or just hits me up for any small advice or help and gets upset when I can't give her a useful answer or resolve her issue. This feeling of resentment builds up inside me, and I’m slowly starting to distance myself from this person. Why did I have to figure everything out and learn it all on my own, yet this person thinks I’m taking care of it all for them?
I know that in my childhood I had an absent father and an authorial, controlling, and moody mother, and I was heavily parentified by her by her using me as her marriage counselor, and I had to help her with adult chores too. She was sadly very paranoid, and I had to check as a kid the phone of my dad because she thought he was cheating on her. He never did.
During law school, I got really mad when a friend interrupted me the whole time during the lecture to explain her things or just relied too much on me, saying, "I will ask you; you're always well-prepared and always know the answer," or acting surprised when I was once not prepared for the lecture or didn't study for an exam.
Have you a similar experience, and how do you handle it?