How do manic episodes/ hypersexual look like for surviours of SA?
I never cared if I was putting myself at risk as long as no one else was but I never understood the severity of the pain id been putting myself through until now
I need to come here for some support right now because I feel very on edge. I recently started sertraline, and although I’m aware that one of the main side effects when starting it is increased anxiety, I’ve found myself feeling anxious about some very self-destructive patterns in my life that I hadn’t really acknowledged before.
I am a victim of rape, which happened almost a year ago, and I also had an attempt to end my life that resulted in me being hospitalised and diagnosed with depression. Since then, I’ve been trying to get back on my feet.
Given the nature of my rape and other past sexual assault experiences, I think I looked for some kind of hope in the kink community. I believed that if I met the right person someone trauma-informed they might be able to help me revisit my trauma but this time with a sense of control.
I was on a website called FetLife, and in December I started speaking to a man. The age gap was huge I’m 19 and he was 50. Even though I showed my friends and they told me it was dangerous, it genuinely just felt exciting and on edge at the time. However, I’ve realised that when I’m in a hypersexual state, I can be very vulnerable. I ended up exchanging photos with him and going along with whatever fantasies he wanted me to portray.
It’s only since starting sertraline that I’ve realised how dangerous this situation actually was. I decided not to meet him and blocked him.
Unfortunately, this pattern has happened many times since the rape. The way I’d describe the feeling is that I just can’t stop. I’ve met up with multiple random men before him, often much older (40+), in places I don’t know, and I’ve put myself in situations where they’ve tried to act out their sexual fantasies on me. Once I’m in those situations, I feel like I have no way out—especially since I often don’t have money for train tickets or a way to leave.
I’m really worried this is becoming something serious, and I feel like I’ve recently had a massive wake-up call. The most concerning part is that I didn’t fully realise how dangerous these situations were at the time. I’ve put my life at risk so many times, and in the moment I feel almost like I’m on a high and really smart and that everyone else around me is wrong.
I don’t know if any of this could be classed as mania.