u/CandidateSeveral3442

Hello

I don't know if this will help me, l guess l should talk to a midwife about this but l think it's alright to start somewhere. I have had my copper iud since february 2025, and l got it mostly because l had an active sex life with a friend. But then things got messy and we are no longer friends anymore and l'm wondering if it's worth to keep this for 4 more years to come or not, because what if l get to meet someone?

What makes me question this is because of the pain and the cramps that it gives me, and the random bleeding/spotting. So far it has protected me well, but it's just all of these things that makes me wonder if l really can hold this up.

I usually get stingy cramps everyday for 1-2 weeks before ny actual period/bleeding starts. It usually happens once during the day, in the afternoon. It's the same stingy feeling that l get that feels exactly like it did when l got it inserted. So l always have to take pain killers everyday so l can keep go on about my day. And the spotting doesn't come that much, sometimes it can be in the beginning of a new month and then it stops, or it comes when l get these cramps. I can handle that, but l don't like the surprise spotting that much, l just have to clean my underwear more frequently.

The bleeding during the period isn't that bad, it mostly bleeds a lot for two days, then it becomes less, but tthe bleeding lasts maybe 5-7 days.

It's just that... l feel like it's easier to keep it than to having to remove it and MAYBE will have to insert it again if something happens, and l don't want to go through that process again. But these cramps makes me just wonder if l really can deal with this.

I feel safe with it if something happens. And l really don't want to take anything that messes with my hormones. I'm scared of how it will affect my body and mood.

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u/CandidateSeveral3442 — 8 days ago

How do you get over a friend who you had known for some years, had an intimate casual relationship with, and then suddenly ghosts you and remove you from all social media? Someone who you thought you could trust?

I feel like l will never be okay again and that this will haunt me for the rest of my life. I get triggered to see him on social media all the time because we have mutual friends, and l have seen him taken an interests in a girl. But he couldn't end things with me, he couldn't take care of me as a friend and my needs. I didn't ask for much at all. But to him it was almost as if l maybe was high maintainence, when l only asked for the basic needs.

We had it good, but after a while he started to prioritize less and sucked at making plans while HE was the one initiating them. I gave so much and now l feel like the only thing that will help me is to find another guy, but l know it won't. But it feels like l can then focus on someone who actually will treat me right, or maybe l just need new friends, but it's so hard to get new ones. I don't have a big friend group and all of them live far away from me.

I got anxiety and this only made my mental health worse. It has affected me in so many ways and l wasn't ready for how much it would destroy me.

I also feel like l'm looping my thoughts because l never got a closure. I always go back to what happened and l get angry and sad that l can't just erase him from my mind.

I lost a friend, and someone l actually liked, even though l knew he would never return those feelings.

I feel so fucked up. I can't let go off someone who treated me badly.

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u/CandidateSeveral3442 — 13 days ago