I wrote a song inspired by dating someone with an avoidant attachment style.
Hey everyone. This is a throwaway account, but I’ve been a lurker here for a while on my main reddit, mostly just reading and trying to make sense of my experience Earlier last year, I got caught in a situationship with someone who seemed deeply avoidant. I was constantly trying to make things feel emotionally safe, reassuring them, showing up, overexplaining, overgiving… but somehow it always felt like there was this invisible wall between us.
they would come closer whenever they were hurting or lonely, talk about wanting something deeper, then suddenly become distant again. That push-and-pull dynamic really messed with my head for a while. I know a lot of people in this sub probably understand what that feels like.
I’m not some huge artist or anything, just someone who needed an outlet for all of it. I ended up writing a song called “Freedom Isn’t Free.”
🎧 https://open.spotify.com/track/06HDq2v71QqoUhie3LVqFw?si=995d18711c9a44b5
The song is basically about caring about someone who isn’t able to fully let themselves be cared for, and realizing that holding on too tightly can slowly destroy you. Sometimes letting go is the only way to finally find peace again.
If even one person connects with it, then sharing it was worth it.
Thanks for reading ❤️