u/CanadianCoyote1

I’ll be living in res next year at UBC. I’m at a crossroads about rooming and dorm stuff.

The most ideal situation would be a joint-shared bathroom kind of room, but I’d have to get pretty lucky for that. Which brings up the fact that you would have a “same-sex/gender roommate”. I don’t think there would be too big an issue with that, as I’m sure theyre accommodating for queer folks. However this is a much more triggering qualm of mine: what if my roommate doesn’t pass well enough and it “exposes” me too. I just want to medically transition, be stealth, and never talk about it. If people (easily) connect the dots that my half-ass trans roommate and I are sharing same-sex rooms, then it outs me too, which I would really really like to avoid.

Then there’s the possibility of not having a shared bathroom and having to deal with male living space stuff, regardless of whether I do or don’t have a roommate.

I would like to have a roommate, mainly because I get lonely and I have siblings so I’m used to the whole pair-living stuff. Idk, I’m pretty stuck here.