u/CanPsychological6167

Since I cannot fall asleep at night anyways I thought why not make my nights more productive or at least somewhat relaxing. In the morning I have stuff to distract myself with but at night I cannot seem to shut down my thoughts or anxiety unless I’m on phone scrolling, watching something or playing video games. This is a pretty bad coping mechanism and makes falling asleep very unlikely.

What do you all do with the time that you have during night? Anything which helps you relax or at least feel less shitty. Reading, writing, painting are obvious ones but they are not enough to quiet down my thoughts.

So I have this friend. We were never super close initially but we did hang out a lot because of being in the same city and grew somewhat closer. Recently I noticed it was mostly me initiating the hang outs and she just agrees to them. I wanted to see if she will reach out to me as well so I stopped texting first but she didn’t for few weeks and I was somewhat hurt.

But after a while she would sometimes randomly say ‘hey wanna go here at this event or place’ and I would excitedly respond but she would follow back with simple ‘yes’ or ‘sure’ without setting a time or day. I for once wanted her to make an effort to plan a hangout for us like I did but the conversation never grew out of one or two words after she texts me to hangout.

She did this again today as well and I’m super confused by this behaviour. Why even text someone to hang out when you’re just gonna let the conversation die later and don’t even bother to set up a time or date. It’s always me pushing forward. Is it some type of weird push and pull tactic to see if I’m still on hook or is it an honest mistake? I would rather her not text me at all instead of half-assing it.

Even today I was the one who searched up the movie name, show timings and theatre which will be nearer to both of us. Least she could do was set up a date even though she is the one who texted me first to hangout but then her energy just fades.