I'm seeking help and opinions here because it's the only place people may understand what my father is going through.
I'm an infp and my father is an intj.
He had always been a logical and direct person. He had always had an analytical view on life. However, when I was a kid, he was really into the Kardec spiritism religion. That religion traumatized me. It made me fall into a constant state of guilt, because it's a religion that operates on kharma. As I became an adult, my father and I dropped that religion, and I started healing. I discovered new ideas. I read a lot. Actually, my father and I studied philosophy together for a while. We really developed a deep friendship and understanding of each other away from the grid of religion.
That was until last year.
During a dream, he had an "experience" that opened his eyes back to Kardec spiritism.
Since them, he kind of dropped everything in his life to study spiritism. He was developing a game, he dropped it. He spends the whole day reading or listening to spiritism books. He meditates twice a day in search of astral projection. He talks about spiritism 24/7. And he is currently trying to get me and my mother to return to religion. There's a lot of guilt and kharma talking point coming back to our family and I'm completly in shock.
So far, we've already had five big discussions on religion. I explained to him my trauma related to religion, but he's so absolute passionate about "his master" Jesus and the spiritism evangelion that it feels like I'm talking to an audio recording and not my father. Whenever I try using logic, he says that I didn't have the awakening that he had and I will not change his mind.
I'm so worried... to give an example, the other day, he watched a video saying that princess Diana was reborn in Australia and the first thing she asked was about her kids... and I think this is bullshit, not logicall, or not proved (not to mention that every kid born into this religion is, somehow, the reincarnation of someone important), but my father believed it right away and he even got emotional.
My question to you fellow intj, is if it's normal for an intj to have such a close relation to religion, or if my father may be going through any type of trauma himself, or anxiety related to life and death. I don't know. For the last five years, we had three deaths in the family, both on my mother and father side. I feel like this devotion back to religion is his way of dealing with death. I asked him about this and he denied it. He said both things are unrelated, that his awakening happed before the deaths.
In truth, I'm so scared. I fear I'm losing my friend.