I (20M) am no longer attracted to my girlfriend (20F) - What is the right thing to do?
So, some brief backstory:
I met my girlfriend around April 2025 through mutual friends, and we both had an admitted crush on each other. At that point, I hadn't had much dating in the past, and she had none. We continued to be friends throughout the year, and we didn't talk much during the summer, and we went our own ways and dated other people, etc. Eventually, we went on dates and got together officially in the fall of 2025. Before we got together, I remember debating myself on whether I actually thought she was attractive or not, but I quickly dismissed myself as being shallow, and we had a LOT of things in common, we had deep bonds over, so I thought it didn't matter. A month or so goes by and things are fine and fun (maybe the excitement of a new relationship), but I feel myself losing attraction towards her- I felt awful, and I didn't know what to do. I definitely felt my attitude towards her growing cold, but I did my best to mask it, and I eventually broke up with her in December, and guilt really destroyed me the following while. We reconnected in February and started dating again about a month later, but now in May, I feel myself having that same exact attitude towards her. I am trying to tell myself it's in my head and it will pass... and sometimes it does for a little bit...
I know this is not fair to her, but I feel absolutely disgusted by myself. I cannot break up with her a SECOND time, especially after I reinforced that I made a mistake and was the one to want to get back together with her.
I know I am not a bad person, but I feel awful about it and it's making me sick. I do not know whether I am in my own head about this, or if staying together is the right move, or if breaking up is the right move, etc. All I know is that this time, if I ended it, it would destroy her.
I would love some insight from anyone
Thank You :,)