In laws acted like I did not exist on my first Mother’s Day.
Feeling down because my FIL and BIL did not wish me for my first mother’s Day. Mother in law only wished me when I called her to wish her and said “ oh I guess it’s yours too now so happy Mother’s Day”. Husband heard this and seemed startled. I didn’t think too much of it at the time.
FIL invited his mom and his wife out for lunch that day and did not contact us at all but every year he invites us so husband and I join. He texts me weekly but no text on Mother’s Day.
We always bring MIL and husbands grandmother a gift and spend time with them. BILs girlfriend of two months messaged me yet he did not. Yet he messaged all his female cousins and friends for Mother’s Day as my husband is in their groups and saw the messages. He typically texts me every few days. He continued to message my husband that day about other things as if I do not exist. Husband didn’t reply to his messages yet.
I’m grateful because My husband let me sleep in and took care of all of baby’s needs that night and morning while making me a big breakfast then had a massage and nails booked for me that day while he watched baby. He saw his mom in the morning quickly in between breakfast and the massage and I had baby with me. When my husband saw his mom in the morning he realized they had a plan that day and didn’t invite me or mention me at all.
He came home and didn’t mention it until the next day saying he was sad they treat me this way when there weren’t any major issues that happened with us.
We went to my parents for dinner since my dad, brother in laws and brothers planned an evening for my sisters, my mom and I with our kids and spouses.
For context: I’m 8 months pp- We allow in-laws to see baby once a month and they did recently complain that they hardly see baby so I’m guessing that’s the problem but I do not plan on changing that so too bad I guess. BIL and his gf see us often and at events. Our anniversary was a few weeks ago and everyone wished husband and I for it. So this seems personal.
I Just feel like no matter what I do they will never treat me as equal. Feeling defeated.