Burner account for obvious reasons. My wife and I have been open for a few years. We have a pretty great sex life and see people mostly separately.
I’ve always been aware I’m average in length and pretty nicely thick in girth. It’s a grower. I’ve slept with many women and most of them have enjoyed it, seemingly. I’ve also had some pretty traumatizing situations where women have laughed or in once instance, straight up told me it wasn’t going to happen because of my size.
Like a lot of men who aren’t well endowed, I’ve worked to be good at kink related things, love using my mouth and fingers, I’m even charming and interesting.
But being in an open relationship has been a bit punishing on my psyche. The constant size queen bit, the emphasis on size, hearing women I’m out with telling me they hook up with dudes with big dicks (you’d be shocked how often this happens).
I don’t know what to do and it’s making me feel overall worthless. The emphasis on size and how obsessed women seem to be - and it IS women - is making me die inside and frankly, resentful. There seems to be this vibe in this sub that only men really care about dick size but holy fuck is that not true.
I don’t even really have a question or need advice but just a space to fucking vent because this is making me miserable. Not in the least interested in a penis sleeve but obviously there is a lack of options in terms of solutions.
My wife tells me she loves my dick and that is of course so lovely and I’m so lucky. But part of me thinks she is lying because literally every other woman seems to just want a big dick.