Am I wrong for rejecting incompatible proposals?
I’m a 30-year-old unmarried woman, and today I just feel mentally exhausted and lost.
My father spends day and night looking for marriage prospects for me. Sometimes the groom’s side never replies, sometimes I say no because I genuinely don’t feel compatible with the person - whether it’s because of career mindset, personality, or sometimes even physical attraction. And before anyone misunderstands, I’m not trying to “judge” people unfairly based on looks. I just feel that if I’m going to spend my entire life with someone, I should at least feel comfortable and emotionally connected enough to say yes.
Today my father got really frustrated and yelled at me saying things like, “You want this, you want that, why don’t you understand a father’s stress and tension?”
And honestly… that hurt me a lot.
Because yes, I understand parents feel stressed due to society, age, relatives asking questions, etc. But what about me? I also carry stress every single day.
I have a demanding job which is mentally exhausting at times. On top of that, every day I’m being sent multiple proposals which I need to go through seriously because this is literally a life decision for me. That process itself becomes emotionally draining.
And apart from all this, I’m also dealing with health issues – multiple small ovarian cysts in both ovaries and a moderate-sized fibroid in my uterus. That tension also constantly stays in the back of my mind.
Today I just broke down because it feels like everyone is only thinking from their own perspective. My father is stressed because of society and responsibility, but nobody really asks what I’m feeling through all this.
Am I supposed to just say yes to whichever proposal comes my way?
The thing is I am ready for marriage. I’m not against it at all. I’m only saying no where I genuinely don’t feel compatibility or connection.
Maybe I’m wrong somewhere too, I don’t know anymore. That’s why I came here to share my feelings. If anyone has advice or has gone through something similar, I’d really appreciate hearing it.