Married for 15 yrs with children. No supports and both doing the lions share on that side of things. Opened up the marriage via ENM probably 2.5 yr ago initially by husband and its been a learning curve but pretty manageable. Wife very into it now and had lots of connections and its become more one sided in that she gets alot of attention and more confident etc.
She has one connection which has become more than and there are some feeling involved.
Woman - how do you navigate whether your feelings for another are true or not? Mindful of NRE and the bubble. How do you distinguish between there being long-standing issues in the marriage which have been tolerated but not any more?
Men - how do you handle this and the feelings of your wife being with another man in more than a physical way? Pushing back may lead to ultimately losing her but not doing so means not working on the marriage?
Both talked about counselling but also separation and is it just inevitable?
Apologies if not the right group/post