I’ll try to not make this long but I’m just confused and very annoyed at my wife over this fight it’s turned into.
Me and my wife have been together for 8 years now and married for 2. We have a 4 year old girl and a year old boy.
So earlier today, me, my wife and our son were at our local mall and ended up going into Claire’s for some sunglasses for our daughter. We get up to the cash register and the lady at the register just starts ringing us out and asking the basic “if we found everything fine” questions.
Well she liked my shirt because it had a bear on it and it said ‘Papa bear’. She literally just said
“Hey I like your papa bear shirt.”
I said thanks, paid for the sunglasses and she gave us our stuff and told us to have a nice night.
My wife immediately glared at her and walked out with our son in his stroller huffing. This poor girl looked confused, she was probably just 20 honestly (I’m 38 and my wife’s 37). I said I’m sorry she’s just tired and went after her.
When we got back to the car I asked her what the issue was. She then went on this huge thing about how she ignored her and didn’t compliment anything she was wearing (which was a plain white shirt and jeans, she likes casual clothing), and called her a slut.
I asked what the hell her issue was and she just kept saying that “She was flirting with you because she was staring at your chest and smiled.”
First, the bear design on my shirt is ON my chest, so yes, people have to look there if they want to see it. Second, she was literally just doing her job.
She claimed she flirted with me, and I just don’t see it as that. She didn’t say anything else after liking my shirt and “have a nice day”. She acted pretty normal for a retail worker. I tried to tell my wife this, but she just kept insulting this lady.
So I just finally told her that she’s “so fucking insecure if she can’t handle some other woman liking a shirt I happen to be wearing”. She got really angry by that and hasn’t talked to me for the rest of the night.
I do feel bad saying it the way I did, but she’s been this way for a while. She’s never gotten this upset before though, and I have had women try to flirt before and I immediately reject it, but I Don’t think this younger woman was though.. I’m so confused about it. AITJ???