u/California_Lost_3397

For the last two years, my husband and I have been planning our 20 year anniversary trip to Paris. We are supposed to leave in 5 days. My dad, 82, has been in late stage heart and kidney failure for many years but decided to end dialysis one week ago. He will die in the next few days. We live close to my parents, see them often, host them for every holiday, bring them food, have them for Sunday dinner, etc. I’ve been with my parents constantly for the last few days, arranged caregivers, cleaned up after toilet accidents, ordered hospital beds, etc., etc. All of it has been difficult because my dad is regularly combative, jealous of his children and wildly selfish. Basically, he’d never help anyone the way he’s being helped now. Postponing the trip is not an option because of our schedules for the next year. And we don’t have trip insurance. Is this a no-brainer and I should definitely cancel the trip?