I’m really bad in bed and don’t know how to fix it.
First, yes I’m married. No, my husband has not complained. Not once. He’s never cheated on me or forced me to do anything I don’t want to. It’ll 4 years married, 6.5 together April 30th.
So, now that that’s done, how do I go about being better? Right now, I mostly lay there. Yes, we do different positions but he’s still doing all the work. I have no rhythm and feel weird leading. I don’t like being on top because of this. I was laughed at in the middle of sex by an ex partner over a decade ago because it was so bad. He also laughed at me when I went down.
He’s not the only one to tell me it was bad. But I’d like to get better at it for my husband. He doesn’t complain and hasn’t said I was bad. He said he doesn’t think I am.
But what’s worse is I also just don’t like talking about sex or doing PDA things outside of holding hands or an occasional kiss, even in our own house. I don’t want to talk about any fantasies I have.
My husband did say the one thing he wished I would do is initiate more because I never do, and that’s true. I don’t. I hardly turn him down. But he’s not wrong.
I don’t even know where to start about being good in bed.