Hi all! My husband loves to play flesh & blood and is away for work. I wanted to surprise him with a gift to come home to along with a clean house and dinner made for him. Has there been any new drops recently that I could pick up and buy for him? Let me know if any other f&b related things I could pick up for him :) thank you in advance!!!
Recently myself (27f) and my husband (30m) went on a family vacation with his parents and his aunts, uncles and cousins. I recently have lost some weight as I am overweight. I have been feeling really good about myself and have been keeping this weight loss to myself and not telling everyone I’m working out and eating better. My husband has also lost some weight but less than me as he hasn’t been working out as strict as I have been or eating as clean as me as he doesn’t have as much weight to lose. As soon as we got to the airport his aunts and uncles noticed his weight loss and said he is looking good. They did not say anything to me, I didn’t take it to heart but I was feeling a little disappointed I did not receive the same reaction.
When we got to our destination we met up with my husbands parents, his father showed us to our accommodations and was showing us the mini fridge that was stocked with beverages he then looked at me and asked if I was diabetic. My husband clocked this right away as offensive and asked him to leave the room because we were tired from travelling all day. As soon as he left I began to cry. His father knows I am not type 1 diabetic as we have been together for 7 years and something like this would come up. So he was asking if I had type 2 diabetes aka making an assumption about my body and my lifestyle. After doing so many work outs and walks and strict eating, I had an idea built up in my head that people would notice and be kind about it but for the first thing for someone to say to me was “are you diabetic?” It was disheartening. Also we were in a tropical destination where I would be in a swimsuit and be extremely self conscious.
My husband was upset about this and wanted to bring it up with his father to let him know that’s not an appropriate question to ask. We discussed the possible outcome of bringing it up and ultimately I determined he is a 60 something boomer who is set in his ways and probably will not be apologetic so it isn’t worth brining up. I also didn’t want the narrative to turn into me looking for problems and starting something out of nothing.
My husband still brought it up with his father anyway as he believed he would be apologetic. He was not. He said it was out of concern and that I am sensitive. If anything brining the issue up made it worse as he didn’t care to apologize or consider my feelings. I’m not mad at my husband as he was trying to fix the situation and stick up for me.
His father then proceeded to give us the cold shoulder for the rest of the trip.
I would also like to note his father is a retired health care professional. And on another note my entire family are healthcare professionals (doctors, nurses and pharmacists) and I have a family doctor that I check in with regularly with and I am a person with a brain in my head that is aware of the risks of carrying so much visceral fat. My husband immediately clocked it when he said it as one of my motivating factors for losing weight was to not develop pre diabetes or type 2. I have had my blood work done I am not pre diabetic and my fasting glucose is perfectly normal. For him to look at my body and assume that I am diabetic especially after working so hard the passed 3 months was disheartening.
TLDR: my FIL asked if I had type 2 diabetes after I had been working out and lost 40 lbs and did not apologize for saying it even after he was made aware that the comment upset me.