u/CObound9

Just looking for support from a group that I know understands - but I guess I’m now NC with both my parents- already wasn’t talking to my nmom, but my edad was trying to reach out until we got into a fight because, for the 100th time, he said “well that just doesn’t sound like your mom” and I ended the conversation clearly angry, and..nothing. He hasn’t reached out and I certainly can’t keep engaging in his gaslighting, having realized he’s actually gaslit me worse over the years than my mom trying to convince me I was just not remembering things correctly or was being dramatic. Anyways, I want to feel at peace, but instead just feel this profound grief that I have to choose between my own physical and mental health and my own parents. That being healed/ having self worth and having a relationship with my parents are simply incompatible things. Any tips for moving through this to feel more at peace??