u/CJ_1889

Seeking advice about sextortion

Hi guys, I'm a 25 neurodivergent male and a therapist. Last night i made an incredibly stupid mistake. I met a "girl" on a dating app and after a while we started sexting. I sent a video of me.. you can guess the rest.. and after a while "she" came back and said that if i don't pay money she would send the video to my friends and family. I didn't pay (obviously) and i blocked them immediately. It's been over 24 hours and i haven't been contatcted again. Trust me, in this moment i don't need a lecture on how stupid and gullible i was, i'm beating myself up non-stop about it and it is a lesson i've learned the hard way and mistake i will never make again.

This entire episode has massively shaken me up, i'm not eating or sleeping and i'm in a constant state of paranoia over whether they'll search for more info about me/find my number. I've taken all the steps to prevent this but what i'm really embarrassed about is the fact that all of my training has seemingly gone out of the window at the moment, i can't seem to escape this state of panic that i'm in and i'm feeling extremely emotional. The old negative thinking patterns around me ADHD/Autism are creeping back and i feel like i'm sinking right now. I've come so far in my training and built up so much resilience but right now it doesn't seem like 'therapist me' is very present.

Any advice, familiar stories, tips would be massively appreciated.

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u/CJ_1889 — 13 hours ago

Just got blackmailed on Snapchat

Met on a dating app, moved it to snap. Sent nudes, videos a few seconds long of me.. you can use your imagination. I deleted the chat as soon as i figured out they weren't legit and a few mins later they threatened me showing the video that i had deleted saying they will show it to my friends and family etc if i don't pay. I saw the message and immediately ignored it and it looks like they unfollowed me.

Thankfully it was only snap, a place where i don't have any family members. I've deleted all pics of me online that i know of and i have a private insta and facebook etc already. The only information they have on me is what my face looks like, my full name and the city i'm in. It's been 3 and a half hours and nothings happened. I think i might be okay but i'm still so paranoid and i can't concentrate on anything else at the moment. This is so shit :(

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u/CJ_1889 — 1 day ago