u/CHM256

Its either the marketing manager whose head is too set on the company budget/just wishes to pack early before going to turky, or the technical manager who has bad eye sight because of dialysis, or me being myself/my existence or consultants, or your husband or your parents in law. To you theres always Some thing or some one you arent satisfied of

Every day of the week I'm beginning to see a trend needing to walk on egg shells around coworkers.

These coworkers, theres always something and someone to gossip / complain about. I always come home messaging my fiance that I'm tired, mentally draining cuz i feel out of place. I don't gossip. I hate it. I've always hated it since high school. im 26yo. Perhaps in some scenarios i dont even know the full context, bc its never that big of a fuckin deal usually. People just like to talk maybe? Whether it's bad or good. Idk I don't get it. And those who have known or may not know that they have been a topic of nasty gossip, how do yall just went on your days like normal? id feel mentally drained. Kudos.

Walking on egg shells suck. Sometimes if that coworker(who was gossiped about) remains oblivious and ignorant, I wouldnt even blame her, theres nothing satisfying to these people unless more gossip/trash talk/boring ahh topics about others.

I dont get it I'm weird i know and im introverted. I like one piece, my little pony and shows like rick and morty and no one ever interested (or The one who has resigned) abt them. I put on masks and thicker ones and it has always been draining cuz rarely i get to be myself and talk abt what i enjoy within the company. Forgot to mention that I do get along with everybody. But i feel like its never personally genuine for me and now maybe I've lost myself lmao. I do draw from time to time just to express the colours in my imaginations. Adult life feels so grey and bland~ but you gotta pay them bills.

Just to be clear, I am a woman (25yo), i love my girl bestfriends and my two sisters, enjoyed hanging out with my girl ex-classmates from college. So no im no, women hater at all. No women hater here.

I was hired as an intern then became a permanent staff after graduating my degree. So this is my first ever corporate job and most of the coworkers even managers are all.women. only two men in the office out of 18 workers in total which are my senior and director.

Maybe not for all female worker majority offices but is it normal for everyone to talk behind each other regularly? Its better for me to assume they have gossiped abt me behind my back when im not around because they do it regularly with other workers. Such a weird environment to be in.

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And the selective likeability. The way alot of them are selective on who to giggle and laugh with, who to tell their gossips with and news. Its like you eat each other while smiling. Bringing someone else down without questioning the system. Sticking to those who have more influence on others or loud /laugh alot, kiss-assing. Make remarks and sarcasm about a paticular worker behind their backs. The more productive/relatable/quirky/in common a person is to you then u treat them as equals.

One of the latest messed up thing my managers did were that they hired someone from a consultant company they hated/presume as a redflag. This new staff knew the management and former consultants from her company, so everyone would deliberately "sush sushh shes coming(the new hire from that company), if she hear she might tattle lol". My quesion is if the managers know how us workers feel abt that paticular company's incompetency/bad performance, why hire someone who used to work there and had good relationship with her ex-workers? Just to Challenge the environment or someth? Make the new hire, other people and me uncomfortable?

I wonder what are some of ya'lls experiences with many women offices. Good and bad ones