25M. After a decade of struggle, too many talk therapists, and a lot of disguised coping, I’m within weeks from starting EMDR.
Backstory without backstory, my life revolves around 3 words: Fear of Abandonment. Replace it with anything—Alone, Failure, Space, Rejection—all resonates the same core in my life. My parents got divorced at 12, and I have struggled with the absence of my father ever since. It has created intense anxious-attachment that I’m hoping can be diminished from EMDR.
My hope is to hear some success stories but also advice on my specific therapist’s techniques. She is a 25+ year solo LPC with advanced qualifications in EMDR (trained, certified, certified to train others), but appears to not follow a weekly model. Sessions are 2-4 hours, almost in clusters. I’ve read the horror stories of people getting worse due to processing too quickly, and while I have all the faith in someone practicing longer than I’ve been alive, it’s still a thought.