u/BxGyrl416

I work in a unit that is very, “We’re one big family.” Colleagues are forever having surprise birthday parties, baby showers, and retirements for each other. The issue is that this is not applied equally across staff.

For example, staff with December birthdays got one big cake, while March birthdays were ignored with the exception of one manager.

Another thing is that we’re often asked to contribute to surprise baby showers and such for staff, with gifts or cash. I’m already not in the “in group” as it is. The celebrations are every month or two and the asks are getting to be a bit much.

How can I avoid participating or contributing without being ostracized? Or is that even possible?

In NYC, Grenada, T&T, etc. there are websites and IG accounts that advertise fetes and events for that country/city. Does Barbados have specific sites or accounts like this (I’m talking outside of and beyond Cropover season)?