Relative sleeping in my bed for a week and I’m not allowed to be annoyed, AITAH?
I am in my 30s, female, and I live with my parents (I pay rent but not as much as I would if I lived alone). I also have Autism and ADHD. Throughout my whole life, whenever we have relatives I’ve had to give up my room or share. Sometimes they stayed for a long time or visited during every holiday so I didn’t have a break without somebody in my space.
My aunt is visiting and she has been here for a week so far. I have no problem with her but now I am overstimulated by sharing my bed and I want to be alone. I told my mum how I feel but she gets defensive and says “am I supposed to kick her out?” I’m not telling her to kick her out, I just want her to acknowledge that it’s difficult for me.
When I get ready for work I can’t put the light on and I have to tip toe around. My auntie wet the bed and accidentally urinated on me. I think she drank too much? It was a mistake but it was awful for me and as somebody with autism, that’s a nightmare. I then had to console my aunt because she felt embarrassed. She also sits naked for ages after a shower, which I know she does at home but it makes me uncomfortable. Just things like that.
My aunt said she’s finally leaving and then my mum said no, “I want to us to go out for the day” so my aunt decided to stay. I was annoyed and showed it to my mum. She then said “well I want a day out… am I supposed to kick her out?” I was the bad guy for being upset that she stopped my aunt leaving. I then started to cry and she sneered “what is SHE crying for?” I then became furious and threw some boxes on the ground. I have autistic meltdowns (very rarely) when I’m misunderstood and my mum triggers them because she doesn’t empathise with others and sneers when me and my dad are upset.
I know I’m a loser for being in this situation at this age but my disability/mental health makes it impossible for me to hold down a consistent job - I’m always working but I’ve changed jobs a lot in the past - so I cannot afford rent to move out.
AITAH for being upset? Am I selfish for being fed up with sharing my room?