How do you convince your mom you’re a boy when all she does is talk shit about you to other people (spoiler in case it’s triggering)
I have been out as FtM for about 5 years now. my mom still refuses to use he/him and although I started with they/them pronouns YEARS ago she still exclusively uses she/they. I’ve since come out to her dozens of times regarding actually being a boy.
She has told me that what I’m doing goes against biology, even though I’ve shown her resources that destroy her claim. Every time I try to explain it to her or have a conversation she shuts me down, belittles me or blames it on other people in my life.
i am home from college from summer break and since I’ve been home my siblings (also closeted queers) have come to me saying my mom is telling them how all I’m doing is creating narratives and my friends and boyfriend are filling my head with nonsense. She claims since I wasn’t like this has a child im faking it.
I‘m going to start HRT later this summer- but I feel I need my mom’s approval. I have OCD and one of my obsessions is her approval. I know deep down I will never get it- but I want her to understand who I really am.
any advice for how to have the conversations or important points to make would be greatly appreciated :)