I (M26) moved into an apartment with someone (F23) in December 2025 for a 12 month lease.
We talked and met in person for about 2 months before moving in and she seemed fine, frankly I just wanted a roof over my head and to save money.
The Red Flags started almost immediately.
She was constantly short on rent the first 3 months, which is funny because we were offered our first month free of rent. She doesn't contribute at all and doesn't clean up after herself, she leaves a trail everywhere she goes. When I try to bring up my concerns she just looks at me and says "You sound like my mom." and rolls her eyes. She smells like shit because she only showers once a week, and her room smells like a mixture of vomit and cat piss. Not to mention she doesn't even take care of her cats, I'VE been the one feeding them.
She got fired from her job 3 months ago, and it doesn't even seem to be actively trying to find a new one, so I've been actively paying for everything while she blows her money on weed, alcohol, vapes, cigarettes, and fast food. She goes through food extremely fast and leaves dirty dishes in her room so long that one of them started to mold. She leaves food out to rot, wasting MY money!
There's been times where's offered to wash dishes or take the trash out because I work late lights, but days will go by and they will not be touched...
I'm basically raising a child, I have to remind her not to touch my food because if I don't she'll get high and just raid the fridge for anything she can get her hands on. I've been thinking about leaving for a while now, her girlfriend has been begging me not to but I genuinely just can't deal with this anymore. I'm doing my best to try to save money by meal prepping, but I genuinely just can't keep up. I can't even talk to her without her making some smart ass comment or just going "sorry :(" and then NOTHING changes.
It doesn't seem as bad compared to a lot of the stories I read on here, but this is my first roommate experience ever and I can't handle this anymore. Sorry