AITAH for not wanting to attend my in-laws Mother's Day celebration after being excluded from the Mother's Day group chat?
For context, my mother-in-law made a group chat to plan Mother's Day. The chat included grandparents, cousins aunts they're seemingly aren't many men in the family other than those who have been married in, but pretty much everybody was in the group text excluding in-laws.
Now I can understand not being in the group chat because she is not my mom however, if we're celebrating Mother's Day as a family, I do feel like all mothers should be included in the text. Not to mention, everyone is included in every single holiday planning group chat whether it's Thanksgiving Christmas Fourth of July whatever everyone was included this is my fourth year as a mother and for four years now I have been excluded from this specific text thread.
Also, as I said earlier, the majority of the family is women and it just happens to be that the only two wives that were excluded from the text are also mothers.
No one has directly been rude to me, and I don’t think anyone was trying to be malicious, but it honestly hurt my feelings enough that now I don’t really want to go to the celebration at all. After almost 10 years of marriage I've never really felt welcome during these family functions.
We do have a good relationship with his parents however, it's when we get together with his entire family is when the dynamic just feels off. Now his brother and his wife don't really go to family functions because of this reason they have been married for almost 20 years and she just got tired of dealing with it.
My husband doesn't necessarily think I'm overreacting, but he knows his stepmother wouldn't intentionally leave us out to be malicious. Which I do agree, however it does still hurt to not even be considered.