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He is also in tech. Senior eng. Ten years in.
The thing that happened: my new director, in a meeting today, asked the men on the team for "their honest assessment" of a strategy doc and asked the women on the team (me and one other) for "the rallying cry for how we sell this internally."
I told my husband over dinner. Specifically that exact phrasing, which I had written down because it was so clean.
He said "are you sure that's what they meant."
Reader, he can read English. He has heard the same phrasing in the same kind of meeting. He has not had it pointed at him because he is not a woman in those meetings. But he knows. He knows in the abstract. He had a class on this in business school.
I said "yes, that is what they meant, in fact that is the words they said."
He said "well, maybe he was just being clumsy with language."
I am writing this from the bathroom. I had to get out of the kitchen for a minute.
I love him. I am going to go back in there and finish dinner. I am also going to put a small mental flag on the moment for my own records, because I have been collecting these moments for fourteen years of marriage and they aggregate.