For context my grandma is a raging narcissist. I am also very ADD so if this seems jumbled I do apologize.
So a few weeks before Easter I was in the kitchen with my then 5 year old sister and she saw a picture of herself on my grandmas Alexa with her sperm donor in the picture. For context there is a PFA against this man due to him being a very unstable individual who has not only threatened harm but has tried to kill his own daughter. She then asked me who was in the picture with her and I told her no one of relevance. I ended up leaving shortly after so I wasn’t able to address it till Easter. Easter was a bit chaotic. My grandma walked up to both of her daughters (one being my mother) and mentioned something that had them jokingly arguing which my grandmother chose to sit there and film them arguing while giggling to herself.
After all of that I turned to my grandmother and explained what happened with my sister to which her response was “Why didn’t you tell her who he is?” And in all honesty it’s not my place to tell my sister any information especially when my mom has asked us not to tell her anything because she is still too young to understand. Because of that I immediately turned to my mom and explained to her so she was aware because she deserved to know. My mom calmly addressed my grandmother who slowly was getting more and more irate. At first she was sitting there smugly claiming she didn’t know how to take it off the Alexa and she didn’t want to delete the pictures because my sisters in them. My mom wasn’t asking her to delete them just asked her not to show pictures of her abuser. Eventually my grandmother slammed her hands on the table, walked over to the Alexa, threw it on the ground then screamed that my mother and I ruin everything and we need to grow up. Told us we are no longer allowed over there and yelled a bunch of other stuff. Then proceeded to run upstairs and continue on her tirade. I have been almost no contact since. She has reached out once to ask if I’d like to go through my sisters old baby clothing and I said yes because not only did I buy some of it but I do need baby clothing since I’m due end of this month.
I just had my baby shower Saturday where she actually showed up and played nice in my face but was apparently talking bad on my mom to my aunt on my dad’s side. After the baby shower though my aunt (moms sister) told me that she no longer wants anything to do with my grandmother because my grandmother went around sharing the video she took of them “arguing” making it seem as though all they care about are heirlooms and material items. Also my cousins have also been very low contact same with my siblings. I feel I may be the Ahole here because I confronted her on a holiday and she has tried to reach out since.
So AITAH for going low contact with my grandma?