signed up for dating apps last week and I have no idea who this person is supposed to dress like
Signed up for dating apps last week and I have no idea who this person is supposed to dress like
44f. Separated nine months ago. Single for the first time in twelve years. Friends think I'm ready, I probably agree. Downloaded the apps. Got matches. Made a plan for a first date.
Then I opened my wardrobe.
Everything in there is either something I wore when I was married or something I bought to get through the divorce. There is nothing for this. Nothing that reads "woman who has put herself back together and is open to something new."
I know the right outfit doesn't fix anything. I know that. But there's something real about the gap between what you're wearing and the story you're trying to tell. I feel like I'm showing up to the first chapter of a new book while dressed for the last one.
For anyone who navigated this, the first time dressing for yourself after, not for the marriage and not through the grief - what did that actually look like?