u/Business_Crow1444 — reddlx

I (18F) recently had a fallout with one of my close female friends, and now it feels like my entire friend group is turning against me.

For context, we've all been friends since around 4th grade. Even though we're now in different colleges, our school friend group is still pretty close and we hang out often.

Recently, I got invited to one of our friend's birthday party. At that party, one girl's situationship apparently found me attractive and asked her if I was single, and told her he liked me. I had zero interaction with him beyond just being there, no conversations, nothing.

But now she's upset, and since she's kind of the "favorite" in the group, the other girls have started excluding me. I even apologized to her just to keep the peace, even though I didn't actually do anything.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened. Back in school, a guy from our group had a crush on me while another girl liked him, and again I didn't interfere at all. That same girl from back then, along with the girl from the current situation, are now kind of teaming up and making me feel left out.

So it's starting to feel less like a misunderstanding and more like I'm being singled out.

Right now, most of the guys in the group are still friendly and include me in plans, but that seems to make the girls even more annoyed with me. It's like whatever I do just makes things worse.

To make things harder, my two closest friends from the group have moved out of town, so I feel even more isolated.

For context, our group has always had more guys than girls (around 4-5 girls and the rest 7-8 boys), so the dynamics are a bit complicated.

I just feel really left out and hurt because I genuinely don't think I've done anything wrong. I don't want to lose a friendship that's lasted this long, but I also don't want to keep apologizing for things that aren't my fault.

What should I do in this situation? Is there any way to fix this, or should I start distancing myself?