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This sounds incredibly silly, but I think I’ve been building quiet resentment in my relationship for the past 4 years. My partner is nice, I love him greatly, but I just feel like he doesn’t truly understand me or get where I’m coming from a lot of the time. It feels as though I have to repeatedly ask for things, but there are some things that I’m not really even comfortable asking for because it seems as though it’d be common sense…

Things like attentively listening to your partner, actively engaging in conversation with what your partners interested in, asking how their day was, etc. I have to.. start these conversations myself, and either ask him how his day was first, or just start talking about it with the lingering anxiety that he won’t be interested enough.

I do my best to always make sure I’m listening when he talks about something that excites him. Whether it’s a new hobby, or a new show he’s watching, or an event he went to. Even if it’s about things I’m not fully interested in, I know it’s his entire world, and I want to take the time to enjoy it with him. I just feel like he doesn’t feel the same back. Sometimes I get sad because I don’t really feel like I can have emotionally and intellectually deep conversations with him as much as I would like to. I’ve mentioned all of these things over the past few years, and we’ve both mentioned that we’d work together to improve our relationship.

I don’t usually listen to this artist, but I ended up listening to a snippet of Olivia Rodrigo’s song “begged” and it just felt like it verbalized the emotions I’ve been feeling in my head this whole time that I couldn’t express well (which is funny, as I do songwriting for a living).

I love my boyfriend, and there’s nothing that’s inherently red flags in our relationship. It just feels like.. there’s a lot of beige flags. Some part of me feels like this relationship isn’t meeting my needs, but I also feel terrified to give up on a “good love”. I know he does truly care about me, he’s not abusive, and I can envision a future together. To be superficial, I think he’s one of the handsomest men I’ve ever met. I feel a lot of regret for even thinking about wanting to break up, because I don’t doubt he would put his life on the line for me in times of need. There’s just been a build up of small things that have made me feel unloved. It’s hard because we have communicated about these things and I’ve seen.. minimal change. I’ve offered couples therapy but he seems more interested in individual therapy and just… working things out.

Just wanted to preface that I recognize extremist views have been getting more limelight worldwide and not just in Japan, I’ve just moreso been shocked at some of the statements I’ve seen from Japanese people online.

Not Japanese myself, but I’ve been partially surrounded by Japanese social media since at least 2008. I can’t say I’ve never seen this level of hate, but I guess I just haven’t seen it this widespread or common. It genuinely felt like people were curious about other cultures more than anything with no intent to be rude (even if they unintentionally came off that way), and now it feels like deliberate stark hate.

The internet is truly one of the only places people don’t have to adhere to tatemae, so people tend to be more honest. Are a majority of Japanese people thinking this way? Has it always been like this, but twitter and other platforms just gave people the space to be openly racist? Is it like the U.S., where a lot of these people who felt this way were lingering in the background for years? Or is it a new phenomenon caused by a rise of tourism/immigration?

Maybe I’m just seeing the past in rose colored lenses?

I’ve been pet sitting through a common green booking app for about a year now, and up until now had believed that my bookings were insured. I only do housesitting and drop-in’s.

I now realize that the company I’m contracted with doesn’t provide much coverage at all, and that I should seek out my own pet sitting insurance. I’m starting to book clients off-app and so I feel that this is a large priority for me to get done beforehand.

I tried getting insurance through PCI, but I stopped when it asked what I classify my business as. I’m not filed as an LLC or a sole proprietor, do I need to figure this out first? I’m not entirely sure what the process is for this. I would be grateful for any advice.

I’ve noticed a few people in my town charging $50-100 for 3ds modding and it just baffles my mind because it genuinely isn’t that hard to do it yourself…

Would it be morally wrong to offer this same service for much cheaper? It makes me mad that people are scamming people for something that’s probably a 30 min job.