Loneliness, Salary, hometown blues
Hi!
Late 20s, queer, and living in a small city that I have lived in my whole life. TDLR- Long term goals are make more friends, bf/dating, and make more money but feel very stuck in my hometown and with my job.
Ever since I finished school, and especially in the last 5 years, I have been getting lonelier and lonelier. Friends moving away, them having less time after getting married/kids, naturally drifting apart etc. I probably only have like 2-5 hours of socialable hours a month. But my city isnt very sociable- tried looking for social groups- nothing queer at all, and only have very irregular meet ups for my hobbies. I would love to be able to do one or two social groups a week, and maybe make a few friends and a bf (without apps haha). I am not looking for nightlife or some wild exciting life lol.
I've got it stuck in my head that I NEED to move to a mid-tier city. Even to the point where I throughly checked twl out (visited/checked out commutes/attended social groups & asked my boss for an office transfer).
My employer covers a wide variety of types of work, all across the country. I have diligently been looking at both internal and general job postings (and applied to a few), but almost all them are either a huge pay cut or I am wildly unqualified for. I am making about $20 more than min wage, but with the cost of rent for even a small 1 bedroom in a mid tier, it doesnt feel like I am making much, and my salary as is is limiting where I could afford to move.
My thoughts range from going back to school, or learning a second language to crashing out and doing something fun for short term relief(ESL in China, working in remote arctic etc.lol)
Thanks!