I dont know if i was in the wrong for breaking up w my ex like this
Okay so ik most of these stories are ai but I'm geniuenely curious what people think because some of my friends are saying I'm in the wrong.
So last summer I met this guy who's like 2 years older than me in a bar i always hang out at with my friends, for the record I'm 20 and the legal age for drinking where I live is 18. I found him really nice, but tought nothing of it. A few days later we started hanging out and I realized I started to grow some feelings for him. He mentioned his girlfriend of three years a few times so immediately I was like "no he has a gf get over it". So I slowly did start to get over it. But then one night he gets drunk but still offers to walk me home, and while we're walking he confesses. At that point idk if I was just excited because this would be my first relationship since junior year in high school or if I actually liked him. When he confessed I told him that I like him too but want nothing until he breaks it off with his girlfriend because I don't want to be "the other girl" or "the girl he's cheating with", and that i want to properly be his girlfriend.
Tomorrow morning at around 10am he texted me that he broke up with her and that we should meet. I agreed and we got together. Thankfully two days after that I went on a summer vacation with my friends, and during that vacation I started to realize that he was genuinely obsessive, asking where I was all the time, what I'm doing all the time, for pictures all the time, and by all the time I mean once every hour or two. That started annoying me alot, so I just started ignoring his messages. Bad I know. By the time I got back home I realized this isn't going to work out, but I told myself to give it some time and that maybe I'm overthinking.
That night I went out to that same bar I met him at with my best friend and some friends who came to our country back from Germany and Slovenia, and if course he had to tag along. Some of his friends were there hanging out with us too, so I assumed he would hang out with them more than with us, but I was wrong. The whole night he kept pushing himself close to me, asking to leave so we could be alone and stuff, but I kept politely turning it down because it made me feel uncomfortable and I really wanted to be with my friends considering I hadn't seen them for a while, especially those who came from different countries. He got mad at that and started slamming his phone on the table, which made me even more uncomfortable.
After that night he started being JELAOUS of my friendship with my BEST FRIEND who is also a girl. Then a day or two later he got so mad he slammed his phone on the table because again I didn't want to go anywhere alone with him in the middle of the night, and just left and told me he needs to do something. An hour later he texts me that he went to hang out with my best friends ex and that we'll talk when I apologize. Later I invited him so we could talk, but he was obviously drunk AGAIN even though I asked him multiple times before to stop drinking so much. When he got there we started talking, but he kept hitting the wall and yelling. Only then did I realize that if he hits the wall and slams the table, he's gonna hit me too one day. When we "resolved" things he still kept badmouthing my best friend, and I had enough of it.
That same week on Sunday I was at my mother's house for lunch, because my brother was back in town, and discussed it with her whether I should meet him to break up or do it over text. I decided on breaking up over text, because I knew if I did it in person he would probably grab me and not let me go until I said we weren't breaking up so I just broke up. After he saw the text he was like "I knew it" and things like that basically trying to manipulate me into staying with him and feeling bad. Honestly I felt instant relief. Keep in mind all this happened in the span of 4 days from when I came back from vacation which lasted 10 days, so the whole story to this point happened in 2 weeks.
A few days later I'm at that same bar again with my friends and he walks in and invites himself to sit at our table, but to be fair we agreed to stay on 'okay' terms, but that still doesn't give him the right to invite himself. Basically he spent around 70-75 dollars on drinks, but keep in mind that one drink costs 2.50 dollars... which is around 29 drinks. CRAZY amount, not sure if he drank it all by himself, probably not but he had more than half of it for sure.
So he gets crazily drunk and I got up to go to the restroom, and he gets up with me, wraps his arm around me once, I push him away, twice, I push him away again, third time he pulls me close really hard and thankfully my best friend and the friend who was working, a guy 5 years older than me btw-the manager of the place, step in and get him away from me. The friend who was working sends him home and that's the last I ever hear from him. Nowadays he keeps away from he, says hi even though I ignore him. He sometimes still circles around the bar when we're both in to pass by me or see me but I ignore it because all my friends know or we're there while everything was happening, and that night as well, so he knows not to even try approaching me.
So AITAH?