I write this story because I believe it can help some people by warning them.
When I was young, dating was never easy for me, but at a point, I understood that I shouldn't waste my value with random girls before being ready to engage myself. Then I became catholic and this idea made even more sense. When I felt ready, I started to date for 2 years another christian girl from Belarus, but we weren't from the same social world and it created tension that finally led to not being engaged. I was already strict on my criteria when looking for a potential partner, but after that, I started to be more cautious about these socio-economic criteria as well.
A few weeks after, I met a Ukrainian girl, clever, elegant, orthodox but not practising (okay why not), from a good family too, and we dated for 3 months. She directly told me she was dating a maximum of a year to marry next her boyfriend, and other stuff, so we were on the same vibe about the traditional relationship we both wanted. Then, she introduced me to her mom, who is her closest person. Everything went well, and because I invited her to a ball, I offered her a beautiful necklace a few days later to wear that evening. She accepted too to meet my mom, and we planned to visit her in our villa in Portugal for the holiday. At all these moments, she was behaving as everything was fine, but out of nowhere, she became cold, and after a day, she stopped answering, refusing my calls. So I wrote her a letter, trying to act like an adult who is considering being engaged to a girl, opening the discussion. Instead of replying or agreeing to discuss it directly with me, she blocked me.
All these years, I thought that this respectful way of acting, to date only someone with whom there is a serious possibility of marriage, being educated like a gentleman, etc., would make me avoid this kind of behavior. Maybe it is the reason why it feels so big today. And maybe it is childish to feel like I feel, as many people would just say that she just wasn't the right one (I don't believe in the theory of "the right one" by the way, as for me the right one is the one for whom you say yes in front of God). I knew that nowadays, everyone is hurt by relationships, as she probably was to act like that, but I thought that with consistency, she would start to see that another path exists. It's been two months already, I see that my mental health is dropping a bit more every day to levels I would never imagine to reach. It feels crazy to look at me months ago, and now, just hoping to survive until July. I don't have any hope to forget her, but mayve one day I will learn how to live with that story. As I read in other post, ghosting feel so unfair and inhuman, because it is like a cancer slowly gnawing away at your whole chest.