Hi there,
Our 8 mo recently started to wake up 1 hr earlier than usual, or when he's closer to his usual awake time, his naps are shorter.
At this age do they need to be awake longer than 10 hrs, which is the general recommandation I have seen in this sub?
Thank you in advance!
Hey Everyone,
This is an update of another post (I've put the full text below
this one).
I just wanted to let you know that I did it. I finally decided to take the plunge and participate in one activity that implied several stress factors. For many it won't seem like a big deal but for me it is. It was a 20 min drive at a place I never went to, alone with my baby boy, at a determined time. As soon as my baby finished his first nap of the day, I had 1 hour to decide and I was still making excuses in my head until the very last minute. But I started to act "as if" I were going to go: preparing baby's lunch and mine, pack our bag, etc... Still giving myself the possibility of changing my mind. While my partner was helping me getting the babe ready, I finally bought my entry for the activity. I litterally pressed "pay"' 5
min before leaving.
On the road, I was quietly sobbing (a mixture of stress and pride, but mostly the latter) while my baby was being an absolute angel in the backseat.
So I made it there... Only to find out that the activity was cancelled because there were not enough registrations. They tried to reach me but I didn't receive the call.
Well.. you know what, I am still so glad I did it. To celebrate my achievement and to add a little more to the challenge, I went to the drive through for the first time alone and bought myself an iced cappuccino before heading home. On our way home, Baby was fussy because he is teething but hey, we survived and spent some relaxing time outside when we got back.
So, to the other anxious moms, you can do this! Each step is a new victory and another step toward a new challenge. Thanks so much to all of you for your kind encouragement!
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Hi there,
My baby is 7 months old and I am often thinking about trying some new activities with him but I always feel so overwhelmed and I end up feeling guilty about not going. To begin with I easily get anxious about trying new things alone, and I also struggle with my fear of driving. I am working on this by taking small steps but it takes me a lot of mental preparation to feel ready to take a new step.
There are several really nice activities around my place (about 20 min from my home) where I could meet and share with other moms but I always have a reason not to go. At first I think I had pretty valid reasons but since things are getting easier with the baby, the more it goes, the more it feels like I am finding excuses not to go : too tired, too complicated to organize, don't want to feel rushed, the activity overlaps too much on my baby's nap, etc.
At the same time, I am wondering if I am putting too much pressure on myself about doing new things. I know we shouldn't be comparing ourselves but I look at my neighbor who's very active and she's been doing a ton of activities with his baby since he was young, so it proves that things are maybe not as complicated as I might think.
I guess I just need to continue doing things by following my own pace (until now I ran little errands with him or I took him to his health appointments alone, for me it felt like a big deal) but I still feel shitty about being so scared about everything.
OR - am I really scared or just mentally tired?
Does anyone else feel like this? When did you start to go out more with your baby?