I (23 M) am unhappy in my relationship with (22 F) and am not sure why or what to do
I know it sounds kinda harsh but I just feel at a loss. We have been together for a little over two years now and I love her deeply. The idea of not seeing her or being with her makes me very sad. But the past few weeks there has been this nagging unhappiness. I have felt so guilty trying to manage it and figure out where it is coming from. I am currently in a time of a lot of stress and dealing with a lot of unrelated issues. I’m graduating, getting a full time job, balancing friendships, balancing classes, and preparing to move back home with parents I have a complicated relationship with. And through it all she has been an amazing support, getting me little pick me ups and listening to me talk about it. But, I still feel unhappy. I haven’t really been motivated to be intimate with her, out of guilt and a lack of interest (I still find her very attractive, and think she is beautiful). She has wanted to and I have avoided it or just said that I wasn’t really feeling it. The problem is, she is very insecure. She thinks she is overweight and everything she does is making her gain weight. Meanwhile she is very athletic, work outs on the regular, and is slim. It also took her forever to fully trust me and talk to me about emotional topics. She has had a rocky past with relationships that have left her feeling like when she opens up to people they leave her. Which is why I feel even more guilty. She truly didn’t do anything wrong, I just for some reason feel unhappy in our relationship. At first I chalked it up to all the other stressors in my life currently but I just have this sense of dread and I feel like it’s because deep down I know it’s stemming from the relationship. Sometimes I just think about how I might be happier not in the relationship but then am surprised by that thought if that makes sense? We have talked about our future and I have been looking forward to it, now I’m just so unsure. I guess I’m just not sure where to go from here? Any advice would be appreciated. I’m not interested in hate comments, I already feel terrible about the situation and have no idea what to do.