He is trying to bankrupt me
First of all: the court system is congested and I had one divorce trial date struck and the next one set 6 months out.
We own property in a state neither of us live in. It was occupied by tenants at the date of separation. He wanted half of the rent without paying the bills, which are $2500. And I’m so glad I didn’t agree to that. Because things kept breaking in that house, and who had to fix them? Me. Who keeps telling my lawyer they refuse to contribute because I’m “unilaterally” managing the property? The STBX.
Tenants moved out over six months ago and I thought, maybe he will agree to sell now. Nope. He wants nonexistent rental profit (remember the things breaking? That included a $12k AC replacement), he wants spousal support, he wants all my banking documents going back to January 2021, he wants all sorts of non-germane discovery documents BEFORE he agrees to sell an empty property that he is not paying for at all.
I tried to play nice, I sent all the banking documents, but he kept asking for more.
My lawyer is drafting a motion for partition, but that will cost $5k. Plus due to my STBX’s obstruction we missed prime selling season in the region where the property is at. Gah!!!
He doesn’t pay any child support. He has paid nothing towards this house since separation. He just sits wherever he is at demanding all my documents while giving nothing. I am in $28k of credit card debt which has been floating my legal costs on credit cards while I pay for EVERYTHING else. I have started going to the food pantry, cut all my subscriptions, and stopped my voluntary retirement contributions.
I’m tired. I work two jobs, I’m a single mom to a tween, and it enrages me that he can sit across the country (where he moved voluntarily) hold things up and demand his “due” after not contributing to ANY joint obligations for three years while I slowly start to slip into a situation I won’t be able to dig myself out of.