dear boyfriends ex wife
you cheated on him and i just happened to fall in love with him and now you want to make my life miserable. you make me question my existence almost every single day and all because i fell in love with a man you broke...
becoming a stepmom 3 years ago and my whole life changed both for the better and some parts for the worse. the thing i gained most was a wonderful stepson that i adore as my own, but with him also came by boyfriends ex wife. she has made me question my entire existence in his life and sometimes i lie awake wondering what i can do to change her mind about me., i have tried my best to be respectful, making sure her son had something to give her for mother’s day, christmas, birthdays, etc. even when she has been mean to me i always try to put myself in her shoes as to why she feels this way. first it was small, i couldn’t come around her son which i immediately understood i was a brand new person in his life of course you have to be cautious, but then i wasn’t allowed to be around her son for more than 2 years this year was the first year i was “allowed” to be around, and even then i had to walk on eggshells making sure nothing i did upset her. then one day my boyfriend wanted me to come be a support system for him for a parent teacher conference i asked multiple times if it was okay for me to do that and they said yes but when the day came she flipped. she made me leave the room and go to my truck stating that i was trying to steal her mom role. i never said i was trying to play mom. from the beginning i made it clear to my boyfriend i just wanted to be in his sons life to support him but i wasn’t going to be a mom to him. she then proceeded to park next to my truck and yanking on the door handle demanding i get out because if i “really wanted to be his stepmom” i would get out and talk to her. i ignored her outburst and she later apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again.… well it happened again i sent a text wanting to clear a boundary, and my bf and i agreed it would be more comfortable in this situation for it to be woman to woman talk, well i sent the text and all i got back was you are and will never be my sons mom… once again i never said i was or have ever tried to be, my boyfriend is exhausted with her behavior but y’all it hurts my soul, i try my best and nothing i do pleases her, i wish she could see how much her words hurt even when i say they don’t i constantly repeat them in my head and wonder if i even am a good figure in my boyfriends life and his sons., i contemplate breaking up with him to make his life easier without the conflict because i feel like i’m the reason he has so much conflict with her and can’t co-parent right, what am i doing wrong?
i truly hope you can find some healing in your life and im hopeful that one day you’ll be able to see me as someone worth being in your sons life.