I didn’t realize how emotionally hard it would be having a loved one in assisted living/memory care
I live out of state from my parent who is in long term care. I can't get him moved to my state because of insurance. I fly and travel as often as possible to visit him but I have young kids, and can't be there every week. I hate that I can't be there as often as I would like and I dont have family there who can visit in my absence.
The stress, guilt, and emotional exhaustion families carry when they have a loved one in assisted living or memory care isn't talked about enough. I know the thought is its easier but that hasn't been my experience.
I think from the outside, people assume that once someone is in a facility, families feel relieved and everything gets easier but I’m starting to realize it’s a lot more emotionally complicated than that.
For those who have gone through this with a parent or loved one, what’s been the hardest part for you emotionally?
Is there anything that has genuinely helped make the experience easier or less overwhelming as a family member? I really wish I had someone who could just go check on him even once a week in my absence, but I don't have anyone reliable.