I think I might be done with my boyfriend.
Hi, I’m [25F] and my boyfriend [24M] in relationship for 6 years. I may been over him since year 4, something happened and forgave him for it. But I didn’t get over it. Year 4 when he started his controlling behaviour, become more disrespectful after the situation. Controlling behaviour is too much for me, doesn’t like me going out. Constant wants to be so involved in my social life. 5 years into our relationship we had our first child, after having this child made me realized I’m not compatible with him. He is a man baby, his mom enables his behaviour. I have to constant give him instructions to take care of his child or do anything. Honestly, I spend most of the time taking care of the child. For the 4 months he stayed home after I gave birth, barely helped with the child. He prioritized sleep, being on his phone, playing video games or going out. I don’t get that freedom, I been lacking sleep for over 6 months since I gave birth. He also, makes excuses why he doesn’t like me to step out to go get groceries or do anything. I couldn’t even go therapy alone.
Not only that he has been invading my privacy for 6 years we been together, I can’t have my phone to myself. He used unlocked my phone, read or messaged my friends back. He reads my messages between people, he loves to say “it’s because I have trust issues.” He doesn’t allow me on his phone, he freaks out when I even touch it. Also, I can’t stand his mom at all or family most of time. I rather keep my distance for mental wellbeing. Some of his family members I like, but others I rather stay away because they are so problematic.
I think I’m at the end, I need some advice.