Confused
Am I dealing with a narcissist?
July moved to his city , first week he ignored me because his cousin overseas died from alcohol poisoning he spent my whole first day on video chat talking to all his family and drinking , called me a b**** prior for asking him questions about his cousins vitals the week before he past away I was trying to help & he said “FU B**** ask like a normal person idk wtf BP is I said it means blood pressure sorry , a week later his daughter was visiting we went to beach he stranded me & my daughter at the beach with no money we walked 7 miles home while he took his daughter to his cousins house ,
September I found him in his truck with a prostitute,
October we hosted all his family at our house it was supposed to be a few people a bunch of people came while I was cooking for all of them he was with his cousin snorting cocaine and writting prostitutes to meet up ,
January we went to visit his brother I was pregnant but didn’t know Ir was 1am & we had a drive to Colorado the next day I asked if we could go to the hotel to sleep he said ok then calls the brothers house we were just at to meet him at the hotel to continue drinking I said I’m not comfortable with that after all the cheating and finding out your brother has been seeing prostitutes here , he hit me jumped out of the car and didn’t give me the hotel key , I called because someone rearended me he didn’t answer , I decided to leave his mom called me & ssked where I was that they were heading to Colorado I told her I left because he hit me , he wrote me saying how I’m a horrible person for leaving his mom that she paid all this money for our trip & I left ….
Saturday , I was happy he brings up a clerk being overly friendly Friday & that he didn’t say anything because he was exhuasted from lack of sleep but that was his choice I told him get home go to sleep we have errands he decided he’d drink all day & stay up came time to run errands it was all of a sudden my fault & I was flirting when I very rudely chuckled & said “thanks” to a clerk who was going on & on about my name & it’s meaning …. Saturday night I got the silent treatment for joking with my daughter she asked me who made my Mother’s Day basket I said “ me I made it” very sarcastic and then followed with a laugh & said I’m jk he got me this he said I was making fun of the gift & taking credit away from him
Today… we go out to eat I don’t say a word he randomly starts talking to his brother about motorcycle accidents & says my wife deals with people who get in bad accidents & are on tubes to eat and poop I awkwardly laughed & said yes because it was not my conversation & I’ve been accused by him of engaging with him brother too much so I kept it short & awkwardly laughed …. He instantly got mad and in the car went off of on me & said I embarrassed him I got the silent treatment all night until now
I don’t talk to people about this it’s the first time I’ve opened up … is this a narcissist? In all of these situations and so many more I’m normally at fault somehow & get the silent treatment everytime & blamed … I don’t get it … idk just venting I guess. I’m just mentally exhausted .. & scared he’ll never take accountability for all the horrible things he’s done ..