My (31F) parents are in the midst of a very messy divorce. Things have escalated, there's police, restraining orders, etc. involved. They're both using me for support. I can't handle it anymore. I don't know how to both support them and not take sides (and I have no desire to take sides.) They claim they don't want me to but at the same time one of them is essentially saying that by still talking to the other, I'm siding with them. The same person basically always complains I'm not supporting them, even though I am. It's having a very physical negative effect on me.
I thought it'd be possible for people to just "not take sides" but now not taking a side is becoming a side. And this is extending beyond me to my husband, and my in-laws.
I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to go full no contact, but I don't want to permanently ruin my relationship with them. Just looking for support.