M32 F33, months of arguing. What can i do?
Hello everyone! I am having some troubles with my gf.
I have a problem with how she reacts when something bothers her.
She always has this passive-aggressive way of saying things that really gets on my nerves.
I’ve been telling her for months that she needs to learn to control her temper, but every time the weekend rolls around (which is exactly when our work schedules align), she finds something to complain about and lashes out at me in a certain way. That’s when she gets on my nerves and we start arguing. Whenever this happens, I tell her I’m tired of this, that it’s affecting me, and that I’m slowly drifting away from her. She tells me she’s going to change, but we’ve been dealing with the same issue for months and months now.
Her response is that she doesn’t know how to control it; it’s like when she gets angry or something bothers her, she reacts by responding rudely without thinking before she speaks. But it’s getting annoying. At first I tolerated it, but it’s becoming exhausting. Sometimes I think about moving out of the apartment or ending the relationship, but when I think about it calmly, that’s really not what I want.
I should clarify that she isn’t usually an aggressive person; our relationship is very peaceful outside of this, and we get along great when we’re together, but this issue is becoming so sensitive that when the weekend rolls around, I already imagine something is going to happen.
I don’t know what to do anymore. We had this same argument over the weekend, and she told me she was going to change, but yesterday she snapped at me again over something else.
