u/BrightfuryL

Okay so I need outside opinions on this because everyone in my actual life is either taking sides or just going "you two need to work it out" which is not helpful.

My brother and I have always been close. Four years apart, late twenties, the kind of siblings who actually like each other which I know is not a given. He's been with his girlfriend Nora for about two years and I like her, genuinely, she's not the problem here.

So apparently for at least the past six months or so he's been telling Nora he has to leave events early because of me. Like I need a ride home, or I have work in the morning, or I'm not feeling well. Except none of that was ever true. I drive myself everywhere. I don't even live near him. He was just using me as a get out of jail free card and didn't think to mention this to me at all.

I found out because Nora texted me asking how I was feeling after one of these fake illnesses and I had literally no idea what she was talking about. We pieced it together and she was not happy, which, fair. I was also not happy but for different reasons.

When I brought it up with him he said it was "harmless" and that he just hates dealing with her reaction when he wants to leave somewhere early. And like okay, that's a whole other conversation they should be having, but why am I the one getting drafted into it without being asked. I told him I'm not coming to things with him anymore if I'm just going to be his excuse factory.

Now he's saying I'm overreacting and that siblings cover for each other all the time. Which is true but also he never asked me to cover for anything, he just did it and assumed I'd be fine with it if I ever found out. Our mom is staying out of it which honestly tells me everything.

Am I wrong here or is this actually a reasonable thing to be annoyed about?