u/Bright_Success526

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Three year relationship with my girlfriend. We live together and typically get a long well. We have similarities and differences as all couples do.

The first year we met she would not be able to keep her hands off me in any capacity. Year 2 we slowed down but were consistent with intimacy, except we always held hands, cuddled, hug etc. we got a dog so of course this caused sex to slow a bit.

This year (year 3) the sex has slowed drastically, but even when we did have sex, it would be initiated by me. She has gone through a lot of stress with her family, work, school, and daily life. We talked about this lack of sex and initiation, and she said she genuinely doesn’t know why.

She says she is still attracted to me and wants to do it with me but just doesn’t..

We first talked of this about two months ago. I felt so horrible because I would make advances and he would always stop me. After that talk, we did it a day or two. Then it went back to how it was.

We had another talk and things still didn’t change much.

We had another talk and this time I said I need something to be done, so she scheduled with her psychiatrist to assess her meds. She unfortunately lost contact with her talk therapist because she stopped responding to my girlfriend’s request for an appointment.

I learned my girlfriend had stopped taking her (almost) 500mg of BUPROPRIAN. Granted, this was weeks ago so only slightly after things slowed down regarding sex.

Last time I tried to get her in the mood, it worked in so far that I was able to get her to orgasm, and she wasnt bone dry like she was before. Her anatomy was actually responding, not like how it was before, but in a better capacity.

As for household stuff, she makes dinner every night despite offering to do it. I provide emotional support as does she. Otherwise I take out the trash, I clean the rooms, I do the dishes every night, I do the little things she wants or likes, we shower each other together, we truly support each other.

But the sex continues to lack. I mean this as we don’t do it except for maybe once a month. Sometimes she would take care of me just myself but even that involves her just feeling bad for me on occasion, like once every two to three weeks.

This lack of sex has been continually making me feel so hurt even though I understand there are various reasons why it exists.

How can I continue to support her but stop resenting her, stop feeling sad for myself, and get my sexual energy out? I masturbate almost daily at this point ( she doesn’t mind, but sometimes feels bad seeing me do it) but we used to masturbate together watching porn, it was a dream come true haha.

But now masturbation just cannot compare to the physical connection.

She has a psych appointment today but I feel like meds can’t just be the reason.

I cried in the shower last night, and when I’m moody she tends to know why but I pretend it’s not why…