Hi I’m F21 and I got married to my husband M30 at 20. A few months after our honey moon I found out I was pregnant and I couldn’t have been happier I always wanted lots of kids.
Our marriage was going great and then I caught a comment about me he made on the phone and it killed all the love I had for him. At this point I was six months pregnant with my daughter and thought I was in the perfect marriage. But back the conversation I overheard him having he was saying how he wished I was having a boy which I already knew and didn’t think much of it. I wish I hadn’t continued to listen as he then referred to me not by name or wife but as his womb and how he’d get a son from me.
I never obviously never knew that’s all my husband thought of me as he has always been very respectful to me when we were dating and all other women I saw him interact with so when I heard him call me his womb I didn’t know how I never saw it before.
It’s been six months since then and I haven’t said to done anything nor told anyone and don’t know what to do. I don’t come from money and when we married I signed a prenup because I loved him and never thought I’d want a divorce anyway. He wanted me to quit my job when we married so I did though now I feel stuck. I feel sick whenever he’s near and haven’t let him touch me since I had my daughter and just keep saying I’m too tired and then he leaves it alone but I can tell he’s getting annoyed. In the three months since I’ve had my daughter he’s hardly held her more than a few times and seems like he wants nothing to do with her.
I’m afraid if I try to divorce him he’ll try and take her from me. I want full custody but I don’t think I would get that given I don’t have a job.
I have no idea what to do but I feel like if I want to keep my daughter I have to stay with him. Not that I know how to do that either.
UPDATE: I’ve decided to have a conversation with him tonight about things that need to change and that I’d like to get a degree and job. I don’t know if it will go well but I think it’s important even if I’m still thinking about divorce.