I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year, and lately I’ve started doubting whether or not this relationship is going to work.
First, let’s start with what I like about her. She’s a very caring person. Every single time something happens to me, she’s always there to make sure I’m okay and tries to help me. She’s also very loyal — she literally doesn’t text other guys and doesn’t have any guy friends. She’s very easy to talk to, and when something is wrong in the relationship, we usually have no problem discussing it and finding ways to improve things. She also doesn’t drink alcohol, do drugs, or go to bars.
Now for the things I don’t really like. I find her lazy because since the beginning, it has been very hard for her to find a job and stick with it, and she’s not very active in general. She also doesn’t really know how to manage her money. Sometimes she can be very intense. For example, one time we were on FaceTime and my phone battery died. When I turned my phone back on, I had around 30 missed calls from her. It’s like that anytime there’s an unusual situation or if I don’t answer after a certain amount of time.
I think she’s very beautiful, but I would like her to lose a little bit of weight. However, every time I bring it up, she says she doesn’t want to. She also struggles with stress and dissociation, but she does have a psychologist.
In conclusion, I’m wondering what I should do because I still love her, but sometimes I don’t know what the right decision is. For me, it’s very important to have a job and know what you want to do in life, and it feels like she’s not at that point yet. On my side, I already have goals and projects in mind for my future. Sometimes I find it hard to go to the gym five times a week and stay in great shape just to look and feel better, while on the other hand, she doesn’t really do any of that.
I could say more than this, but this is just a brief overview of my situation. I hope you guys can help me :)