u/Brazypalm7

I’m new to this thread so sorry if this haa already been talked about. Ive been with my gf 24F for almost 3 years now and for a little over the past year she has been going through depression. I’ve done what I see most people on here do as well - you hate seeing your partner in pain so tryna help in any way possible and putting yourself and your needs on the backburner. lately it’s wearing on me pretty bad , i have adhd myself and have meds and therapy but it just sucks feeling like the person you put first and the person you’re supposed to be in a partnership with just doesnt see you. some days she is happy and feels good and honestly those days i feel super lonely bc I (wrongfully) tell myself that when she feels better maybe she’ll care or pay attention to me but she doesn’t. I know depression is a sickness but I’m starting to wonder if she just doesn’t like me or if she just sees me as her care taker. when she’s with her friends she looks like the girl I first met and it breaks my heart a little. I feel selfish for feeling upset bc I know she has a lot going on. does anyone else have any expierence with this or any advice